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Have you noticed how things are getting pretty crazy on our spinning planet? Over the last 10 years, since we entered this new millennium, life has become more and more complex and more and more is asked of us. Have you noticed yourself on a Hamster Wheel? Are you feeling exhausted, burned out and wondering:
If My Life’s a Journey, where is the path? How can I make a difference? And how will I ever get out from under my To Do List???!!
Let’s look at your To Do List? How many fun or adventurous things are on your list? Do you think you’re giving yourself the care… the exquisite self-care that you truly deserve?
In my decade of coaching others I’ve learned that one can’t have a clear, grounded connection to who you are and be your best self, when you don’t take in the time to invest in the relationship with You. Of course you invest in your business, maybe you invest in your marriage and friendships with others but hardly in your own BEINGNESS. Not Doing – Just Being. Becoming deeply connected to your True Self.
You know there’s a price you’re paying, right? It’s the stress and anxiety that wake you up at 3am wondering, ‘ How will I ever get through it?’ The American Heart Association has reported that one in 3 women will develop heart disease in their life and DIE FROM IT! Why is that happening to women?! No HEART CARE! When we live entirely from our neck up, under the thumb of that To Do List, we lose all the fun and adventure from our lives.
Can you remember what it felt like to be a kid and just BE… just do nothing… have no responsibilities? Just gazing at a river or noticing new daffodils beginning to show their heads in springtime?
Only you can make the choice to slow down and give yourself a chance to unhook from our crazy world. I know you know the cost of choosing to stay on the Hamster Wheel – why not turn in a different direction, step away from the busy world and use Nature as your way to return home to yourself. After leading 100’s of people on fun adventures in nature, I can assure you, that with an experienced and compassionate guide, you’ll be more than glad you did! Nothing nourishes your Soul like a True Life Retreat!
Victoria FittsMilgrim, Certified Professional Coach and Retreat Leader
True Life Coaching & Retreats
Whoosh Whoosh – outta bed at the crack of dawn, serving the demands of others the whole day through? Have you even brushed your teeth? I am noticing, on a very intimate cellular level, that the speed of Everything is increasing hourly. Can this be possible? I think so!
The danger here is that before we have that millisecond to catch our collective breath (remind me to come back to the breath in a moment), things will have teetered off the edge and ‘up the creek without a paddle’ will sound like a walk in the park compared to the new reality we’ll be living in.
My mission is to get you to STOP AND RETREAT. Even just for a day. If I can get you for a weekend, then there’s an even better chance that you might be guided to the place of softening… even melting is possible. There in the fuzzy-focused place things will be seen differently. Visions you stopped dreaming long ago will reappear and begin to crystallize into a blossoming truth. Your Truth. Your Authentic Knowing. Your own sweet and inspired Clarity about what’s what.
Honestly I’m scared. Scared that I won’t get you in time. That the long ago dreams will have completely dematerialized and be forever gone. I hope not but if it’s a race with that Ugly Ole Time-Obsessed , Life-Managing, I’ve-Never-Done-Enough-So-Don’t-Stop Gremlin, I’m gonna need more support than ever to get your attention.
How can I steer you this way? What spark of aliveness can I wave in front of you? How can I find the words that will be enough? The truth is I don’t know. And what works for one, will not work for the next one. So all I can do is BE IT. Allow my own Wild Soul not to hide. Allow her to share with you the joy o f being in relationship with All That Is. See those aspens over there? Can you feel how those dazzling oranges are reflecting the light in my soul too? Feel the beat of that song? The music is magic and my heart is helpless before it. Looking into the vulnerable eyes of my friend and seeing her bravery in the face of more tragedy than I’ve ever known – I am humbled in our shared humanity and instant connectedness through love. All these are the language of my Wild Soul.
Making each moment mean something. Living deeper and deeper, even though it requires bringing down the walls of judgment and comparing and hiding what isn’t perfect.
Are you game? Are you seeking the place to pause and Breathe? Knowing that in the suspended place between inhale and exhale lies the treasure you are. Let’s go together. I don’t know exactly what we’ll find but I’ve been traveling here a long while and can help when fear seeps in. I’ve learned many tools to read the map of the heart. And I am a spiritual warrior for calling forth courage and badger-like devotion to your Wild Soul.
If you’re ready, Come. If you’re Willing, Join me. If you know that you’ve already waited too long, Answer the call of your own Wild Soul.
Certified Coach/Retreat Leader Victoria FittsMilgrim choreographs Retreats and a 1:1 Coaching Practice in Durango, CO. Her last retreat for 2010 is Journey with Your Wild Soul November 19-21 in the Canyon of the Ancients in southwestern Colorado. Space is limited and registration is open now. Contact Victoria at Victoria@truelifecoach.net .
I love this time of year – the dance that occurs between the cool rainy monsoons, the voice of the thunder and vibration of lightning and the endless green that covers the mountains just lights up my soul! Everything is ripening – coming into it’s fullness. Whether it’s tomatoes or peaches, we’re being gifted with the bounty all around us. Do you see it? Are you having an experience of it? What does this season bring to your life? What wants to happen for you?
I feel like I’ve been on the move this past month, creating things that nourish me at the deepest level…. flower therapy in the mountains… learning to salsa dance with my husband… and sharing a wood-fired hot tub with my beautiful women friends at an awesome cabin in the high country. At the same time, I’ve noticed that all these things have brought me a quality of awareness, of noticing that while some things are in full bloom, others are slowing and changing. With my only daughter leaving soon for college, I have moments of clarity where I can feel the excitement for her just starting in life, while I know for me a huge chapter of my life – the intimacy of raising a child – is ending. There’s all the poignancy and bittersweetness I can imagine holding. Some days the tears just come and I sit in awe of how much I can love one person.
The bigger picture here is all about the Paradox that calls me to stretch myself into a being that can hold opposites at the same time. This is a Quest, for sure, one I’ll be working with for years to come. The clincher is that the outer world is not on this Quest with me – daily I’m bombarded (as we all are) with black/white scenarios that are lose/lose in my opinion.
In the article below, the conversation is about being a Visionary. Well, I believe that the qualities of being one are also qualities that are just plain necessary to keep stretching myself and going forward on my Quest. Here are some of them – in my own language of living your True Life
Living in the Mystery – Oh, we humans think we have control over things and that’s such misinformation! Life is a Mystery and our job is to trust the unfolding. I know this continually calls me to BE PATIENT and HAVE TRUST. It’s one of the hardest lessons and yet, when I am there, peace is at hand.
Relax! In recent work I’ve done on some of my own ‘immunities to change’ I’ve gotten to see how ‘relaxing’ wasn’t something really modeled for me growing up. While I’ve always loved to play and am better balanced, I still see areas that I can drive myself (crazy), working and pushing to ‘make’ this or that happen. I know this tightens up my energy – contracts it actually. So stepping away and finding a soul-centered activity can settle me down and return me to the abundance and flow. When I take things on again, I am more grounded, calm and vibrating a whole different way!
Active Waiting – I included in this month’s newsletter the wisdom of Lao Tzu, writer of the I-Ching. He’s describing a way of being that is so valuable, and definitely not given much credence by our society. Instead of always feeling pressured to act – and often before one is clear – make time to get quiet and listen. What wants to happen? This stance of stillness allows things to unfold, but with mindfulness present. Then when you say “Yes”, it’s a complete investment of you.
Co-Create What Matters – The Superwoman (or Man) archetype has run out of steam. Doing everything perfect and by yourself won’t work – it really never was sustainable. We are one community, one planet. How can I engage more synergistically with other like-minded people (my tribe!)? Where do I need to ask for help? Bringing the diversity and creativity of many together helps create the contribution that has the most impact. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for – let’s inspire one another!
Know Yourself – When you take the time to get to know yourself – the whole enchilada that’s you – you can keep a stronger focus on what your livelihood is; what you’re meant to bring to the world. We each have a unique gift and finding its expression brings a lot of fulfillment and joy. Healing and wholeness within myself ripples out and helps create the change in others too. Give yourself full permission to develop a relationship with your inner Beloved. Then you’ll be your own best friend and treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve.
Faith in Source - When you know yourself, you come to know Source, as we are microcosms of that great macrocosm. Not something reached through the usually dependable 5 senses, this place of Source is reached through direct knowing. It’s very rarely explainable in any rational way. Faith implies putting our trust in something we can’t see or touch, but have experienced. It’s remembering the connection that links us all. It’s remembering we’re not alone. It’s coming home again.
While I’ve discovered these gifts for living, I always need reminders to use them. It’s easy to fall into a sleeping state as I move through life. So many conflicting messages coming at me, it would be easy to just get lazy and be swayed by cultural/familial/relationship winds. But, I am committed to growing and stretching into becoming a fully realized human being. Will you join me? Let’s share the richness of ripened fruit together!
The Journey With Your Wild Soul Retreat was originally designed as an exploration of ways to engage with your Soul’s voice – using non-linear practices that steer you away from your usual mind chatter and support you connecting with a deeper place inside yourself. We live in a culture that is on hyper speed and I believe that if we don’t slow down and take the time to connect with the depths inside us, we will lose what makes us unique, sacred beings. We’ll also miss out on our True Life. Listening to my own inner voice, I knew that I was seeking a place to hold this retreat that would offer a special environment for making this connection. Enter Kelly Place. This special inn, located in McElmo Canyon holds many special treats…. Bordering the Canyon of the Ancients and gazing towards Sleeping Ute Mountain, in this temperate valley there are over 100 acres of hiking trails to explore the 25 on-site Anasazi ruins. While this 1000-year-old Native American culture has disappeared, their architecture remains and we can engage our imaginations in discovering the past. We can also engage in bringing to light our own hidden depths in the present.
I gather one weekend each year with a group of women in these special surroundings. We laugh, cry and share the meaningful stories of our lives. We dance from our hearts to inspirational music and created Soul Collage cards, letting our Soul’s speak to us through visual imagery. But for me, the most powerful experience is always our Journey into the traditional Kiva (underground ceremonial chamber in the earth) to hear the Voice of our own Beloved. Climbing down the wooden ladder, into the dark center of the earth can be a daunting experience. We are usually taught to deny or ignore the hidden corners of our life, yet we actually grow smaller living from this fear-driven place. It is this descent, this Journey into the Underworld, that offers us a chance to meet the dark mystery of our life and use it to find the wholeness we seek. As written in this poem of the goddess Inanna’s journey to the underworld by Starhawk, there are sacrifices to be made… vulnerability to expose:
The Descent of Inanna,
The Second Gate
The Second Gate is Fear
When you go down far enough
Wearing a helmet, armor
Wearing an enemy face
It blocks the gate
And you hear what it threatens you with
If you go on
And you hear what it offers you
If you obey
Something you alone can hear
And you know what it is.
To go on
You must take off your clothes
Lay down the cloak that keeps out the
And the shield that turns the spear
And the armor that turns the arrow’s
Take of your breastplate and helmet
Fear doesn’t go away
But you walk toward fear
And the gate opens
Past the Second Gate you dance
Fearless in the open
Your skin one living organ
That embraces air
Our bodies sit in the dark kiva, while to the sound of the shamanic drums, our Soul’s take individual journeys accompanied by animal allies visualized earlier that day. My role is a sacred charge, to be still and hold the intention of each woman – to find more self-trust, to be healed, to learn their legacy – as you each experience what is getting in the way. You open yourself up risking all the things your ego threatens you with losing. And in that magical cave of Mother Earth, you find your resilience and expanded power. We gather that evening and ritually share each of our Journeys, deepening the meaning… singing over our bones. The stories and poems that I hear bring me an overflowing sense of joy. I am surrounded by living Goddesses, as they make themselves the heroines of their Lives. Each one committed to an act that will bring alive her Soul’s longings in her life. She committs to stay in the conversation with her Beloved. And I know that the Journey isn’t over – there will be more insights as you continue to reflect on our weekend and all the Soulful practices we take part in together.
Are you living your life as the Goddess/God that you are? Are you in conversation with your Beloved? The next Journey With Your Wild Soul Retreat is scheduled for Nov. 13-15, 2009. If it sounds like something you’re interested in, please call me at (970) 259-9040 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Today I was listening to an old Bonnie Raitt song – it starts:
“These men that I’ve been seeing,
Got their soul up on a shelf…”
Actually it’s a Chris Smithers song and I’ve known it for almost 30 years! Yikes, I’m dating myself there. Anyway, I couldn’t get that line out of my head — soul up on the shelf. Forget the men – I work with many women who put their soul up on a shelf many moons ago and are longing to find it again. It’s fascinating to me how that happens and then there’s this subtle awakening that occurs. A realization – I’m not living my life as who I really am. But then who am I?
This sort of inner identity crisis can happen at almost any age. Yesterday a woman came up to me at a booth I had at a local Oktoberfest and the first sentence out of her mouth was “I’ve lost myself.” This, of course, was accompanied by her beautiful brown eyes tearing up. That moment, where she let herself, her façade, crack open for just a second, was fleeting. Just a sentence or 2 later, she was asking me if her mascara was running. She had just turned 50 but I can assure you, I’ve heard this same thing from women 45 or 39 or even 30 and 26. How it breaks my heart to see the pain that they have and yet they work so hard at not addressing it.
That is, until they get a bigger wake up call. I heard a story years ago about how your True Life will come knocking on your door, asking to be let in, to be seen and heard. And yet if you don’t answer – if you pass it off as not important because you’re not paying attention or you never consider your own inner world because you’re always care-taking others or climbing the corporate ladder or slaying dragons, it will return. Only louder the next time. Sometimes it takes a big sklonk (is that a word?) on the head to get your attention. Unfortunately, your True Life, has no qualms about blowing the whole house down if that’s what it takes to wake you up. Ouch! Not my favorite way to wake up, I can tell you that.
So what do I have to offer here? So much! So many offerings that are all about waking up and coming home to who you truly are. The edge of having a coach – someone there next to you, who’s categorically committed to you having what you dream of. Retreats – unhooking from the life that’s not working in order to listen to the deeper callings in a beautiful place, free of the distractions that keep you too busy to look. Come, check them out. Your soul is calling and trust me, if you just let go a bit, you will be infinitely rewarded by a journey like no other. A sacred journey no one can make but you. Stepping off and calling forth your courage, you will be met in ways you can’t even imagine. You must. It’s your chance to pull your soul down off the shelf and befriend it. You will be gifted with a relationship with your inner Beloved, who has always been there. The best you there is. Come now, it is time to come home.
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